Speaker: Sandy Souder, April 10, 2016

Good Morning Beloved!

A guy walks into a bar and orders a double martini. He slams it down in one gulp and orders another one. He slams that one down too and orders a third.

The bartender says, “Hey buddy, what are you doing? You are going to kill yourself drinking like that. Do you have a problem?”

The guy replies, “My wife and I got into a big fight and she is not speaking to me for 30 days.”

The bartender says, “Well, that might not be all that bad. Think of it positively. A little peace and quiet isn’t going to hurt anything. Enjoy it.”

The guy said, “Yes, but this is the last day.”

The Power of our Words

Have you ever seen this phrase of Lao Tzu?  Or heard it maybe?

Watch your thoughts; They become words. Watch your words; They become actions. Watch your actions; They become habits. Watch your habits; They become character. Watch your character; It becomes your destiny.

What does that say to you?

It tells me that our thoughts and words have Weight, they have power.

Just as the Hebrew Scriptures showed us that a spoken Word can create the heavens and the earth, we too can create the life we desire by thinking and speaking faith, positive filled words. The words we speak will either give life or cause death.

A lot has been said about the power of our thoughts and words.  If you have seen the experiments that have been done with water by Dr. Emoto and others, and the effect of positive and negative words on the crystals of frozen water, you would be convinced that we all need to be doing that same scientific process to ourselves.

After all, aren’t we made of mostly water?  But instead of walking around with little pieces of paper with all sorts of positive and loving words sticking to us, maybe we should just speak more kind words to ourselves and while we are at it, to others too.

Our thoughts produce chemicals in our body as a result of those thoughts; positive thoughts give rise to health-supporting chemicals while negative thoughts give rise to ‘harmful’ chemicals. Our thoughts can depress our immune system.

What we want to do is become more conscious of what we are thinking and saying.  The more conscious we become, the more we deepen our relationship to the words we use so that we speak from a place of actually feeling what we are saying. We begin to recognize that words are not abstract, disconnected entities used only to convey meaning; they are powerful transmitters of feeling.

For the next few days, you might want to practice noticing how the words you say and hear affect your body and your emotional state. Notice how the different communication styles of the people in your life make you feel. Also, watch closely to see how your own words come out and what affect they have on the people around you.  AND on you….

Here’s another thought to ponder – Speaking quickly, without thinking, or rushing to get our ideas across, our words don’t carry the same power as when we speak slowly and confidently, allowing those receiving our words time and space to take them in. When we carefully listen to others before we speak, our words have more integrity, and when we take time to center ourselves before speaking, we truly begin to harness the power of speech. Then our words can be intelligent messengers of healing and light, transmitting deep and positive feelings to those who receive them.

Of course, they can also be thoughtless words that harm.  And we probably have all thought, said and maybe even done things that we wish we could take back.

Well, we can’t. So as my Metaphysics Instructor would often say…. WATCH YOUR WORDS.

From the Aramaic translation, Proverbs 12:18: “There are those whose speech is like the piercing of a sword; but the tongue of the wise heals.”

There are many troubling phrases in our language that we use without considering their full meaning simply because they have been accepted into common knowledge.  Our domestication brings with it words and phrases that often have damaging effects.  Even as our ideals progress, our language maintains some phrases from our past that no longer serve us, for example: Boys don’t cry; boys will be boys; illegitimate child; and one that I was told, girls don’t do that.  I am sure there are many more.  Do you have any?

You may want to look back and try to remember some of the words you have been carrying with you through the years and work on eliminating them from your life, because boys DO cry, and there is no excuse for unacceptable behavior from anyone, including boys; ALL children are born with Blessing, and girls do run and play sports and go to college.

While these phrases may be intended to be harmless, they are inherently negative. Children can be especially sensitive to such phrases, which may stay with them their whole lives, adversely affecting their self-image and wounding their self-esteem. We can create positive change by choosing not to use these and similar words and phrases as we come across them in our vocabulary and our daily lives.

Language is an area where we can exercise our free will, creating positive change in the world around us by simply choosing carefully the words we use. It is one way the phrase, Peace Begins With Me is placed into action.

It may seem like a small thing, but our words have a rippling effect, like a stone thrown in a pond. People naturally pick up on the way other people speak, consciously or unconsciously changing the way they speak in response.

While I was teaching and to this day to some effect, I had always asked people who used what most would deem bad language to refrain from using it around me.  I wasn’t judging them, I just didn’t want to pick up the habit of using it and have it slip during class or coaching!

We want to control what we say, to think before anything comes out. Once said, it cannot be returned as if nothing was said.

Every time you speak, you influence your world. You are either building it up or tearing it down.  Kind of like Part of the solution or part of the problem…

The intensity of the effect of our words depends on the intensity of the thought and feeling behind it and the way the word is spoken.

An obvious and very basic example of this is the fact that soothing words create the release of “soothing” chemicals in the body. This is true for the speaker of the words as well as the listener.

Angry words, on the other hand, cause the release of harmful “fight or flight” chemicals. Again, this happens not only in the person speaking the angry words but in the one spoken to as well.

It is common knowledge that speaking soothing words of love and encouragement to plants makes them grow faster and better. Harsh, hateful words spoken with vehemence tend to make them wither. If our words can have such an impact on plants, imagine the impact we have on ourselves!  And watching what is happening in our society and across our world, we can see the results of words gone awry.

Every word we speak is saturated with energy that will create or destroy. We cannot help becoming what we say we are. The more resolutely and intensely we speak the word of who and what we are, the more surely we move toward becoming what we say. If we happen to accept the words directed to us by others, if we make their words our own, then we will move in that direction as well.

“As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7 Peace, love, joy in our hearts will show in our lives.

There is no doubt that all words affect us, but it is our own words which affect us the most. Whether we make our statements kiddingly or seriously, they have an impact. The subconscious has no sense of humor. It doesn’t know the difference between your jokingly referring to yourself as “such a dope” and you actually thinking that you are a dope.

So be careful of the seeds you are planting.  In reality it is Blaspheme to talk badly about yourself.  You are made of the same substance as your creator.  When we say be careful of the words you place after the I AM, that is because we consider I AM one of the names for that ENERGY that is everything. SO, then we are describing that ENERGY with whatever adjective we place after it.

It’s like me saying I AM magnificent.  Or I AM stupid.  God IS magnificent.  But God is not stupid.

The words you use reflect your state of consciousness, but they are more than that. They are the very cause of the maintaining of that consciousness. So, if you tell yourself, “You messed up again. You really are worthless,” you are not only affirming your present sense of worth, you are setting the parameters of your worth for the future: Today’s words become tomorrow’s reality.

You are a co-creator with the Universe. You co-create your own world by linking your mind with Divine Mind. That link comes through your words. Your words tell God, the Ultimate Creative Intelligence, just what it is that you want.

If you want prosperity and abundance in your world, speak only words of prosperity and abundance. If you want peace in your world, speak only words of peace. If you want love in your world, speak only words of love.

This is not a denial of the fact that there is less than abundance and peace and love in your world. On the contrary, it is simply declaring to the universe and to yourself just what it is that you want.

And how you say what you want is important, as anyone who follows the Law of Attraction knows.  So, state your desires positively.  Do not use don’t, doesn’t, can’t, etc….no negative statements to the Universe.  State your desires in a positive way. I desire a safe, comfortable, home that provides for all the needs and wants for myself and my pets.

AND, Words become more empowered when spoken aloud.

How much more emotion and power when we speak the word with others, when a like-minded group affirms a statement of truth with passion and intensity.  Words spoken like this can have astounding effects.

This is one reason why we say affirmations together every Sunday.

And another reason why Unity practices Affirmative Prayer.  Rosemary Ellen Guiley, author of Prayer Works, states that affirmative prayer “sets into motion the forces that enable us to manifest what we pray for.”

She adds, “Prayer is ineffective when it is accompanied or followed by negative thinking… We have to put power and intensity into our thought, change our thought, and believe in the guidance we are receiving. If we spend energy on negative beliefs and feelings, we will get negative results, even if we and others pray daily for us. For example, if you pray for a job and then complain to others that you have no job or can’t find one, you are undermining your prayer.”

Rather than begging or beseeching God, Affirmative Prayer involves connecting with the spirit of the Divine within and asserting positive beliefs about the desired outcome. Affirmative prayer is the same method of prayer Jesus taught when he said, “So I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours” (Mark 11:24).

Need more proof?  A scientific experiment took place in which a handful of iron filings are placed upon a thin metal sheet. Then a certain musical note was struck and those iron filings formed themselves into a star pattern. Then a different musical note was struck and they formed themselves into a snowflake.

This experiment demonstrated how a certain kind of vibration, a certain sound vibration, literally demonstrated itself into the physical world in a different pattern.

So it is with every word that proceeds out of our mouths. Those sounds have specific vibrations that affect the patterns of matter in this world.

From Face Book: There are two things to remember in life: Take care of your thoughts when you are alone and take care of your words when you are with people.

So, Watch what you say. Before you speak, Ask, Is this positive? Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?